Just how is this great expression of solidarity working out these days? You know, the parade where all of us who are "non-manly men" (you know, anybody who isn't a conventional masculine "cis" male) are supposedly diverted, so as to not muss up the "real" Pride events?
Well, there's a Facebook page. And what do you know. It's held in September now. Why I don't know. You'll have to ask them.
And even though we're told that numerically, lesbians outnumber trans people, you would know it by the postings. There are lots of postings for trans events/issues, one for bi visibility, a few general, all-purpose "queer" ones.
Where are the postings related to dykes and lesbians? Well, I scrolled all the say to December 2017, and didn't FIND ONE posting that used either word.
Huh. So much for equal visibility. But really, we knew that, right? It was always about coopting an event started for lesbians by lesbians and eliminating the same. At least as anything other than the "supportive" and basically deferential role you often see in...
Well, I hate to say it. The Men's Rights Movement. A movement I spent years studying and writing about as an advocate for victims of domestic violence.
Far fetched you say?
I went back and looked at some of the postings of their main propagandist, someone named Sue.
Sue often makes a big to do about "the media" in rural Pennsylvania "misgendering" various transgender "victims" of law enforcement, and how they don't follow best practices.
The same blogger absolutely ignores best practices for covering domestic violence though - when it involves transgender persons being violent and abusive in their interactions with women within their families.
In fact, she actively covers up any history of domestic violence or violence directed towards women when it suits her purposes.
Let's explore further.
Here is one set one of suggestions on how to cover domestic violence:
QUESTIONS TO CONSIDER WHEN COVERING ADOMESTIC VIOLENCE STORY
1) Have there been prior incidents?Acts of violence are often portrayed as an isolated incidents when, in reality, they are part ofa pattern of conduct. Particularly if family members express surprise at the attack, it is easyto slip into a suggestion that the person just “snapped” or had an uncharacteristic lapse ofcontrol. A more accurate and complete story will result if prior conduct is also reported.Look for a history of controlling behavior. Review court records for prior criminal, divorce,child custody, parental rights and Temporary Protection Order (TPO) cases. Check lawenforcement records for prior arrests and police response to allegations of domestic violenceinvolving the same persons or address.
2) Who can speak for the victim?An abuser’s justification for violence commonly involves blaming the victim or the“system.” The victim and the “system” may not be free to dispute the abuser’s allegationsbecause of fear, or because of physical or legal constraints. Presentation solely of theabuser’s point of view implies that the abuser’s violence was justified or motivated by thebehavior of someone else.
3) Why did this happen?Warning signs of domestic violence are understood. Victims can be protected. Abuse is alearned behavior. Any implication that the crime was inexplicable is likely incorrect.Contact an expert to give you insight.
4) What’s the true portrait?It is incorrect to imply that “normal” or successful people aren’t typical perpetrators ofdomestic violence. In fact, domestic abusers often present two images: skillful in social andbusiness settings but controlling and obsessive in intimate relationships.
5) What language should describe domestic violence?It is good practice to use the term “domestic violence” in describing the crime. Give thepublic a vocabulary with which to identify a social issue. The United States and most of itscommunities have been engaged in a massive effort for more than three decades to provideresources to address the societal problem of domestic violence. Acknowledge the existenceof that effort and the availability of those resources by correctly labeling the conduct you arereporting.
6) Are authoritative points of view available?Seek a statement from, or consult with, a local domestic violence advocate or a recognizeddomestic violence expert.
7) How much do friends and neighbors really know?Use statements from associates of the abuser with caution. Domestic violence is oftenunknown to friends and neighbors until it becomes murder. Balance statements that expresssurprise at the abuser’s conduct with any record of past controlling behavior and informationabout domestic violence.
8) Were they separating? Was she pregnant?Domestic violence often is worst when the victim tries to separate or during pregnancybecause the abuser’s control of the victim’s behavior is threatened.
9) Where can more contextual information be obtained?Information from this media guide may be used to add context and depth to a story aboutdomestic violence.
10) What is the impact beyond this victim?Experts can help describe the impact of the domestic violence on children, families,employers, the community and the larger society.
11) How can victims get help?Include local contact information for domestic violence services. Many victims are unawareof the available support and, except through your reporting, may by unable to safely accessthis information.
12) How can abusers get help?One way to help prevent future domestic violence is by providing information to allowpresent and potential abusers to identify themselves, to understand that change is possibleand to seek help to change their behaviors.
13) Can a story make things worse?Reporters should be aware that abusers use news reports to threaten their victims with similarfates or to reinforce the belief that, like the victim in the reporter’s story, the victim will behumiliated and not believed. Reporters can reduce the likelihood of this perversion of theirreporting by following these suggestions.
So how does Sue absolutely violate these suggestions, in a way that actually suggests men's rights coverage?
Here is one story. Later, I may post about another case of Sue wrote about. It involves covering up the domestic violence history of a workforce shooter, a trans woman named Claire McClimans. Not to mention deliberate playing down of the shooting victim's injuries, and insinuating the victim deserved to be shot because he was supposedly insensitive to the shooter's wishes.
STORY ONE: SEAN HAKES
Sean Hakes was a transgender man shot and killed by the police in Sharon, PA (Mercer County) in January 2017.
Here's what she said about it:
Sean Hake reportedly lived with his mother in the residence. Details are very limited at this time, but I will follow this story. We don’t know Sean’s role in the domestic call or what led up to his death by shooting. We certainly do know that the death of a 23-year-old is terrible and tragic.
And then she goes into how awful the coverage was for HIM in terms of inconsistent pronoun use and so forth.
Well, we live in the age of Google so it's not that hard to find out Sean's mysterious role in this domestic call.
Here's what Penn Live said:
A domestic disturbance at a Sharon, Pa., home ended with a 23-year-old being fatally shot by police on Friday, the Associated Press reports.
According to the wire service, the mother of Sean Marie Hake called 911 shortly before midnight Friday to report an assault at their Sharon residence.